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@neats29 · 🏅 Pro

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September 2026 points

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Tweets: 61
Likes: 477
Retweets: 8
Replies: 54
Quote tweets: 4
2× boosted: 2
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over the last few years i’ve been building a relationship with each emotion, anger, sadness, helplessness, excitement, fear, joy but god damn, nothing’s kicked my ass as much as shame has. the motherfucker is elusive, pervasive, subtle, nebulous and works differently to other emotions. the shame i’m talking about in particular is the type of shame that gets imbued with the identity. it’s not like the blushing shame of tripping in front of a crowd of people, it’s the shame that’s sewn into the fabric of the being. it doesn’t easily make itself known, but like the background hum of an old fridge or the air con, it gnaws away at the being. it acts as a blanket that covers grief, rage, fear etc so you don’t feel them, but instead leaves you with a thousand paper cuts. it’s the pinnacle of self fulfilling prophecies; it desperately wants you to belong, yet it compels you to withdraw, to second guess yourself, to hide. it is the byproduct of disconnection and it produces disconnection. shame, like all the rest, wants love. Aug 8	64	3	9	1	—	9,700
just published dating as a spiritual practice. https://t.co/hDFrYTeq4e https://t.co/i17pLanLya Aug 12	61	4	7	1	—	9,300
i love how every time i experience a dating dynamic (eg asymmetrical attraction), i then subsequently end up in another dynamic where the roles are reversed and i get to experience what the other person must have felt like. it’s so eye opening. Aug 8	69	0	2	0	—	7,600
watched @tasshinfogleman sit with a friend navigating some stuff and he’s so wise goddamn 🔥 if you want a compassionate inquiry he might just be your guy! Aug 9	36	0	4	1	—	5,000
finally getting around to writing a substack post about how to move/process emotions when you're triggered. this process has been super empowering for me and has really improved my relationships. I'd love any questions, common challenges etc so I can address them as I write! https://t.co/uwZMJagIuU Aug 22	26	0	3	0	—	3,500
everybody and their mother is autistic nowadays. Aug 1	22	0	3	1	—	3,400
i love how much new yorkers love their city. i mean i get it ☺️ Aug 30	21	1	1	0	—	2,900
fear is activated but is not registered or acknowledged -> restlessness/worry/concern -> dissatisfaction -> seek activities or people that would sooth or numb it or catch the impulse -> notice the fear in the body -> hear it out -> let the fear take over for a second -> rush of energy up the body -> relief/smile/safety Aug 14	21	0	0	0	—	2,400
a friend taught me that you can just ask the universe for things and i can confirm the universe do be delivering 😎 Aug 11	17	0	1	0	—	2,200
i want to write on my substack and i have some writing time block out tomorrow. i’d love suggestions 🙏 anything you’ve seen me talk about that you’d like me to write about in more detail? any questions etc? Aug 10	9	0	4	0	—	2,000
@funplings are we gonna meet her at one of the fractal brunches or something? Aug 1	5	0	1	0	2× Fractal	2,000 1,000 × 2
@RogerThisdell ok but most people i know who went very far with this had an initial (somewhat accidental) opening that gave them insane motivation and work ethic to keep going. i think most of the half assessed attempts are done by people who didn’t have that. Aug 9	12	0	2	0	—	1,900
@vibecamp_ @gptbrooke @SarahAMcManus that is so cool and impressive!! Aug 19	4	0	0	0	2× Vibecamp	1,400 700 × 2
@Prigoose omg 😄 Aug 16	9	0	0	0	—	1,200
where do you look up the karma counter? Aug 13	6	0	1	0	—	1,100
the way claud speaks (post opus 4.6) is like if someone was trying to put a spoon in their mouth by going behind their head first. Aug 4	6	0	1	0	—	1,100
@exgenesis what?!!! Aug 22	7	0	0	0	—	1,000
@gptbrooke 👀 https://t.co/4gtMmJ0rZP Aug 3	5	0	1	0	—	1,000
@_brentbaum cutie 🥰 Aug 31	6	0	0	0	—	900
@tasshinfogleman ❤️‍🔥 Aug 9	6	0	0	0	—	900
@QiaochuYuan hahahaha omg so true Aug 1	6	0	0	0	—	900
every 3 months or so i go through a new obstacle in my coaching practice that leads me down a rabbit hole of exploration until i process it and level up as a practitioner. this most recent one led me to track aliveness in sessions as an important signal. if i notice a drop in aliveness, i think about what needs to happen, then deploy that intervention and it usually unlocks something and ends up being helpful for the client. every time i go through one of these cycles (even if it’s sometimes painful in the moment), i end up feeling even more invigorated by and invested in this work than before. Aug 22	5	0	0	0	—	800
@reconfigurthing same. the other day I wrote a post in one day but didn't post it that night, then reviewed it the next day and actually made some very important improvements and I don't imagine I would have done that if I had to publish another post the next day. Aug 18	3	0	1	0	—	800
@nosilverv for sure! ai writing usually lacks the resonance (in the gendlin focusing sense of the word) that good human writing has. it feels amputated somehow. though that doesn't seem to matter to those 4k users. Aug 12	3	0	1	0	—	800
ofc there’s a survivorship bias thing where you tend to remember the things that do happen but regardless, it’s a very helpful practice because it clarifies what you want in more fine grain detail and it also absolves you of the illusion that it’s all resting on your shoulders. Aug 11	5	0	0	0	—	800
oh hey, this was a fun surprise ✨ https://t.co/AVva4hL4zo https://t.co/LjLuPMaWjL Aug 31	4	0	0	0	—	700
@simon_ohler it’s happening https://t.co/pTUCkbxtv4 Aug 25	2	0	1	0	—	700
@this_is_silvia ah beautiful as always ☺️ Aug 24	2	0	1	0	—	700
@QiaochuYuan hmm as I think about this I wonder though why we want respect for example, in my opinion if we feel respected it means we are liked and admired by the group which feels like it might be pointing to a similar need as wanting love? Aug 11	2	0	1	0	—	700
great question. short answer: by noticing its side effects. long answer: unlike many other emotions that could be identified in a localised way (eg: fear in the belly), this type of shame is very hard to identify in the body in a discrete way, so instead i’ve been noticing the “signs”. the distinct, repeatable thoughts I’ll have, the accompanying doubt, the actions i take, the mood i’ll find myself in etc Aug 9	2	0	1	0	—	700
@WystanTBS thanks wystan ❤️ it was a joy! Aug 28	1	0	1	0	—	600
@adele_bloch damn! look at you 🔥 Aug 24	1	0	1	0	—	600
@adele_bloch love these! Aug 19	1	0	1	0	—	600
@thereadytim thanks, any particular questions or themes? Aug 11	1	0	1	0	—	600
@michaeltong_ so cool 😎 Aug 8	3	0	0	0	—	600
@thereadytim what do you mean? could you elaborate? Aug 8	1	0	1	0	—	600
@cyrusnewday about to leave in a couple days 🥲 Aug 31	2	0	0	0	—	500
@danielbrottman do girl dinner one night and add a boiled egg Aug 23	2	0	0	0	—	500
what happens if you say out loud all the things that feel true in that moment, like it might sound something like: - i know im sad but idk how to cry and that makes me feel so… - i have this idea that i would heal if i cried but idk how - why the fuck can i not cry arghh - im scared that if i cry… - im scared that if i cried i would… - i dont want to fucking cry but also i do wanna cry but also i feel like if i did.. - if i sobbed right now… - i just wanna push myself to cry because… and so on ideally standing up, being expressive as you say it and importantly saying it out loud rather than inside your head. Aug 23	0	0	1	0	—	500
@dreamyweather yep! i think about this all the time. it highly impacts the frequency for me too. Aug 17	2	0	0	0	—	500
@dererererek4 huh? there must be a typo in there because i didn’t understand what you’re trying to say Aug 16	0	0	1	0	—	500
@dererererek4 oh amazing! how did the grief go? Aug 16	0	0	1	0	—	500
what are your favourite gems in nyc? where should i visit while I’m still here? Aug 14	2	0	0	0	—	500
@simon_ohler 🔥 Aug 11	2	0	0	0	—	500
@tasshinfogleman 🫡 Aug 11	2	0	0	0	—	500
@Prigoose such a good photo Aug 7	2	0	0	0	—	500
@__drewface yeah kind of crazy. my grandparents on one side have 13 grandchildren, ages 53-28 (median 37) and only 2 have had kids (1 each). Aug 5	2	0	0	0	—	500
@beeforfriends love that, so cosy Aug 30	1	0	0	0	—	400
@thereadytim great questions, thanks. I ended up writing about dating but through a different lens, but I will have more to say on the above over the coming months. https://t.co/R9fWPJJbPi Aug 12	1	0	0	0	—	400
@QiaochuYuan i agree but my question is, what need does getting those things ultimately fulfil vs the need that getting love ultimately fulfils, and how different or similar are they? Aug 11	1	0	0	0	—	400
@JamesTamplin i’m still in the process… but usually shame is sitting on top of other emotions so when you get to that layer you can then feel them to “~completion” as you say. Aug 11	1	0	0	0	—	400
@RogerThisdell curious what you think about this. Aug 9	1	0	0	0	—	400
@gptbrooke then you’ve got your diagnosis 😂 Aug 3	1	0	0	0	—	400
@AirKistler love this Aug 1	1	0	0	0	—	400
@strangestloop oh cool!! 😎 love this Aug 31	0	0	0	0	—	300
@christineist not necessarily “married” but the equivalent :) Aug 25	0	0	0	0	—	300
@dererererek4 nice, let me know how it goes Aug 23	0	0	0	0	—	300
@adele_bloch thanks Adele ❤️ Aug 13	0	0	0	0	—	300
@shivam01anand hahaha Aug 12	0	0	0	0	—	300
@dererererek4 great questions, thank you Aug 11	0	0	0	0	—	300
@SaaiArora @louisvarge Aug 1	0	0	0	0	—	300
Total · 61 tweets in September 2026	477	8	54	4	2 boosted	82,100

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